Step 3: The Start of Surrender

“We made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood him.”

Step Three is an important step in the recovery journey of the alcoholic. The reason step three is so important is because it is the beginning of surrender for the alcoholic who is going on the journey of completing the 12 steps. By the time we get to Step Three, we have already worked Steps One and Two with our sponsors or our groups, and we have opened our minds and demonstrated the willigness we have to try something that is new. This gives us a new sense of hope. But we need to take action.

The most important action in Step Three is the decision. It may be scary to decide to turn your will and life over to the care of God, but it is necessary. And let’s talk about this “God as we understood him” bit. This does not mean that you have to believe in God in a certain way to complete the steps. It does not even have to mean God. It could be simply your Higher Power. You could think of it as a more abstract concept like Love, Family, or the Group.

The third step is too important to make in an impulsive moment. Step Three is a process. You have to be willing to surrender. You may not be there after you complete the first two steps, and that is okay. That is why the steps are a progression, an evolution. They are all about your individual journey with your recovery.

Your sponsor, your AA brothers, and your AA sisters will help you through this time. They will help guide you through taking this vital step so that you will not have to do so on your own. Because the most important thing to remember is that in AA, you are never alone.